Have you ever stopped to think about the value of a good tool? Sure you have! When’s the last time you bought a tool or something else you needed to help with a job? Whenever we buy (or make) a tool we make that judgment call of placing more value on that specific tool than the energy (or money) to procure it. Think about it. Let’s say you needed a new tool, let’s say an iron (yes that’s a tool, lol) and it cost $20.00. As you are weighing the pros and cons, you think about what that twenty bucks can do for you and what the iron can do for you. As you decide to buy this particular tool you’ve just determined that there is more value in the needed tool than in the money. Maybe I’m over-explaining this concept but I want all of us to know that there is a certain value to a good tool, especially when we have need of it. The greater the need the greater the value. As I was think about this topic, it dawned on me that every time we use a tool we are acting in humility and expressing our neediness. In television land, Tim “The Tool Man” Taylor would be the most humble guy out there, well maybe a close neck and neck race with Bob the Builder. If I could change a tire without assistance … I wouldn’t need a lug wrench or a jack. If I could push a nail in with my bare hands, I’d never buy a hammer (for that matter, I might not even need a nail if I were all that). Does this make sense? Though we humans are the most highly civilized species ever, in all the world, we are also the neediest and the least capable of success without adequate assists suited to our needs.
God understood this rather quickly after He created Adam. Genisis 2:18-23 “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” 19 So the Lord God formed from the ground all the wild animals and all the birds of the sky. He brought them to the man[c] to see what he would call them, and the man chose a name for each one. 20 He gave names to all the livestock, all the birds of the sky, and all the wild animals. But still there was no helper just right for him.21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man.23 “At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’” NLT
Man has been a needy thing ever since day one (you don’t have to tell most mothers or wives that). Even though God made all sorts of possible helpers, they didn’t meet the need man had … so God made the ultimate helper (besides Himself) … one suited to Adam’s specific needs. Wrapping this up, it is important to find that mate suited to your needs, not your wants or feelings, but your needs. Oftentimes, the very thing we need is not the thing that our feelings scream for. More often than not, what feels like a good thing … isn’t. If feelings were the thing that dictate what was good for us then flattery, prostitutes, and cotton candy would be good for us, but they aren’t. How do you find the mate that would be good for you, you ask?
- Fervently pray about it (James 5:16)
- Seek wise Godly counsel: Parents, Pastors, Mentors, etc. (Proverbs 5:1, 20:18, 26:16)
- Trust/Obey God (Proverbs 3:5-6)
“It’s easy to find the perfect spouse that has everything you need,” said nobody ever. The important thing though, until God brings about the one He has for you is to remain faithful to him, continue praying, and prepare yourself for when the fortunate day comes to past that you find that good thing (Proverbs 18:22). Are you a good tool for them? And that brings me back to the point I made earlier, the greater the need, the greater the value. Those spouses that commit to link arm in arm with us and walk up and down life’s roads with us are of tremendous value and should be chosen with much care and consideration.
So tell me, what kind of needs do you have and what type of assists (or tools) would help you in those areas?
Until later . . . Jonathan Watson
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